May 27th 2017

Did you know that 1 in 100 women have a full term stillborns just like me? That means it's more than likely that you know someone who has gone through what we're dealing with right now whether that person is me, your own mother, your wife, an aunt, a cousin, a friend, or even a random acquaintance. So can i PLEASE give you some advice? 

When you hear of someone grieving, please don't turn away and act like things never happened, that hurts more than anything else. Don't be afraid to talk to them about it and say their child's name. WE WANT YOU TO. Just like any other parent, we want to talk about our child. We want to hear you say her name, we want you to acknowledge that even though she isn't here with us right now, she IS our child and forever will be. Many people are afraid of saying something because they don't want to like remind us of our pain or something? But I promise you, it is never forgotten. You can't "remind" someone of something if it's already constantly on their mind. So don't be afraid of talking about our baby girl, in fact, please do talk about her. My tears won't hurt you, they're just salt and water so even if I cry I'm pretty sure you'll be fine in the end ;)

This can also be applied to anyone struggling or going through a difficult time. DON'T IGNORE THE PROBLEM and don't be afraid to bring it up. What's the worst thing that could happen? They say they don't want to talk about it? Well then at least you tried and they know they can open up to you when they need to... People just want someone to be there for them, to listen and talk about things. It doesn't mean you have to have this deep soul searching conversation each time you see them, but if you have a thought and feel like you want to say something, don't shove it down and talk about the weather instead. SAY IT.

I am SO incredibly lucky to have a husband who forces me to face my emotions head on and express myself. Some call him "spock" but if they only knew... Gosh you're amazing Jon Williams I can't even put it into words. But i CAN say i wouldn't be where we are right now if it weren't for you. Xoxo